A major concern many parents have after the death of their child is how the loss will affect their marriage. A common misconception is that parents who have lost a child are more likely to get a divorce. That is not necessarily true. Instead, my experience and that of others is that the death of a child does not cause
a divorce, it intensifies
the nature of the relationship the parents already had. In working with bereaved couples and individuals, I have seen couples who are open and supportive of each other develop an even stronger relationship. They lean on each other for support as they strive to make meaning, both individually and as a couple, of the death. Neither one tries to avoid the pain, but mourns in his/her own particular way. They recognize that each of them may mourn differently – the father is probably
more instrumental and the mother probably
more intuitive – and they allow for those differences.
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